Top 10 tips a godly woman SHOULD know

Proverbs 31:10-31................

Hey ladies (most especially) and gents as well, here are 10 golden nuggets for the soul:

1.Be trustworthy.

2.Be safe.

3.Be a listener.

4.Don't be malicious – leave your past hurts and bitterness behind and stop making everyone who comes into your life pay for another’s foolish mistakes. In other words learn to FORGIVE.

5.Refuse to nag.- rather than complain about every single thing, try to be grateful, appreciative and thankful.

6.Be an encourager- behind every successful man is.....you know complete it.

7.Be vigilant- that means accept realities of life and work hard. All physical and spiritual battles are won on your knees in prayer.

8.Be confident, kind and speak wisdom- that means all forms of insecurities aint welcome. WARNING!!! No man likes a self loathing woman.

9.Strive for integrity – in all you do mean what you say, say what you mean and do exactly as you have proposed.

10.Be cheerful and optimistic – REMEMBER, a happy woman makes a happy man and eventually a happy home.

Hope this meets you well.

@beinspired4u

“Woman, thou art loosed” – Bishop T.D Jakes

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How To Become Who God Destined You To Be Part 1

Ever wondered why you never fully attain you potential in life? I see you have a direct answer right; you blame it on others, missed opportunities and all other forms of excuse in the book.

The answer to this question is that we need to take responsibility for our own failures but do not fear, cos the Holy Spirit really does enable us to maximize our strengths and minimize our weakness so that we can become that active person in the body of Christ.

So recently I've been reading and meditating on a particular eye-opening spiritual book titled: Spirit-Controlled Temperament by Tim Lahaye

You've really got to check it out. I'd give it a 5 star rating. Moving on before I lose track of how essential this topic is to you, well it blessed me so hopefully it blesses you too.

Yes be rest assured that our temperaments can either make or break us both physically and spiritually so read on.

According to the book, there are 4 basic temperaments which we all exhibit but some are more predominant in us than others and in reality we are a combination of at least two of these temperaments (I won't dwell too much on each temperament but will focus on 2 major ones:

1. Sanguine - they are warm, lively and fun loving, e.g. apostle Peter 

2. Choleric - hot tempered and active e.g. apostle Paul

3. Melancholy - perfectionist type, self sacrificing and anger e.g. Moses 

4. Phlegmatic - calm and easygoing e.g. Abraham

Let's use a MelChlor as an example and yes "I'm active but still find it hard to overcome anger". Remember it was because of Moses's anger (yes the Israelites rebelled and out of anger he destroyed the first stone tablets with the 10 commandments written on them) that He only saw the promise land from afar but never got to enter the place.....if you don't believe me check out Deuteronomy 1:37 -38.....Because of you the Lord became angry with me also and said, “You shall not enter it, either. But your assistant, Joshua son of Nun, will enter it.

The main reasons why we never fully attain our potentials are hidden within weaknesses of our temperament:

1. Strengths of a typical MelChlor: sensitive, perfectionist, self-sacrificing, strong-willed, leader and so on

2. Weaknesses: self-centered, pessimistic, hot tempered, moody, revengeful and impetuous.

A typical MelChlor can be very paranoid and think people are always talking about him/her and they have that proud "self-sufficient" attitude where they believe that "it's all by their might” that they have succeeded in everything they lay their hands upon without ever acknowledging the "Supremacy" of God.

They believe it's all about them and when things do go wrong they suddenly go into that "self-pity/depression mode" asking "why me?” 

MelChlors have to remember, In all things, give thanks....I Thessalonians 5:18.

This "self-centered" attitude makes MelChlors selfish and love others less because they spend too much time focusing on themselves alone. Note "LOVE" seems to be absent in most Christian churches today. 

When it comes to marriage they tend to have a difficult time taking the "fatal plunge" because they like to daydream or "idealize a potential" spouse but they soon recede because the weaknesses of the other person plays out to much for them, because yes MelChlors are very judgmental, they analyze and dissect unnecessary information/issue to a point where it no longer makes a valid point. 

It's only when truly filled with the Holy Spirit that a MelChlor fully achieves a level of spiritual boldness in Christ to become a very confident and active member of the body of Christ.

People with this particular blend of temperaments rarely live up to their amazing potential, because of their "internalized spirit of anger and revenge". They rarely forgive. For example there's no mistaking that Apostle Paul was a MelChlor, He initially sought to persecute all Christians even to the point of their death but upon being visited by Christ Himself, he became a fantastic, self-sacrificing preacher who worn so many souls to God and while being in prison was still able to preach the gospel.

So if you know that you are called to be a leader of a fellowship, head of a family and so on...you'll have to dig deeper with the help of the Holy Spirit in order for you to prevent division within your fellowship group and the breakup of your family.

Watch out for Part 2, Where I'll tell you how the Holy Spirit can help transform you no matter the circumstance or temperament and make you a BONAFIDE child of God...........

"Our Circumstances DO NOT Have To Determine Our Reactions" ~ Tim Lahaye.

He Makes The Difference

Observing the boldness of Peter and John and realizing them to

be uneducated and untrained men, they were amazed and knew that

they had been with Jesus."

(Acts 4:13)

What a powerful statement! The religious elite, having observed

Peter and John's conduct and character, while enduring persecution,

said that they reminded them of Jesus.

Peter and John had just healed a man who was lame from birth,

preached until 5000 men came to Jesus, and immediately thereafter,

were thrown into jail on bogus charges. The following morning they

were brought before a court comprised of some of the same people

who sent Jesus to the cross. In the face of this hostile situation,

they stood boldly imbued with power of God. They did not speak

until they were lead by the Holy Spirit. They said what He told

them to say, and did what He told them to do. They did not allow

their flesh to give occasion to their accusers to find fault with them.

The Bible says that Peter and John's witness was so strong, that

the one's who questioned them, after listening to them speak,

"had nothing to say in response." (Acts 4:14). The ones who

forcible detained them had to set them free - untouched. Peter

and John passed the test with flying colors. Their accusers where

looking for a fight and end up seeing Jesus - again!

Often, when we are faced with conflict or volatile situations we

allow our flesh to govern our conduct. We become part of the

problem instead of allowing the Holy Spirit to guide us through

our problem. We go to church on Sunday and leave Jesus at the

door on our way out to face the remainder of the week. Jesus wants

to come home with you. He wants to go to work with you. He wants

to give you wisdom on how to talk to those who are trying to trap

you. He wants to show you how to relate to those who despitefully

use and don't appreciate you. He wants to be the strength and

wisdom you need to overcome what it is that has mounted an attack

against you. However, you must let Him do the talking. The

prophet Isaiah says that God: "will keep him in perfect peace,

whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You"

(Isaiah 26:3-4, KJV).

Are you stressed out about a current or pending situation? How

do you handle conflict and persecution? When you're going through

what you go through, what do people see? Better yet - "Who do

they see?" Is it you or Jesus? Stand in the power of His might.

For "greater is He that is in you than he that is in the world"

(1John 4:4). Remember, Jesus makes the difference!


Written by (Sam Ogunnaike)

The Dinner Guest

A young woman by the name Rebecca went to her mailbox and noticed a letter that had no stamp, no post-mark, only her name

and address. She read the letter:

"Dear Rebecca, I'm going to be in your neighbourhood Saturday afternoon and I'd like to stop by for a visit. Love Always,

Jesus"

Her hands were shaking as she placed the letter on the table
Why would the Lord want to visit me? I'm nobody special. I don't have anything to offer.

With that thought, she reached for her purse and counted out it's contents: five dollars and forty cents. "Well, I can get some bread and cold cuts, at least. She threw on her coat and rushed to the store to buy something for dinner. Rebecca had only a grand total of twelve cents remaining to last her until Monday. As she walked back, she heard a croaky voice: "Hey

Lady can you help us?" Rebecca had been so absorbed in her dinner plans, she hadn't noticed two figures standing by the

sidewalk: a man and a woman, both of them dressed in little more than rags. "Miss, I don't have a job. My wife and I have

been living out here on the streets. We are kind of hungry. If you could help us Lady, we would appreciate it."
Rebecca answered: "Sir, I'd like to help you, but all I have is a few cold cuts, some bread and a carton of milk. I am
having an important guest for dinner tonight and I was planning on serving it to Him"....

Rebecca finally said to the couple: "Look, why don't you take this food. I'll figure out something else to serve my guest." She handed the man her grocery bag. "Thank you Lady. Thank you very much." "Yes thank you!" It was the man's wife
speaking. Rebecca unbuttoned her jacket and put it over the shivering woman's shoulders. Then smiling, she turned and walked back to the street, without her coat and with nothing to serve her guest. "Thank you Lady! Thank you very much!"
Rebecca became worried: The LORD was coming to visit her and she didn't have anything to offer HIM. She fumbled through
her purse for the door key. As she did, she noticed another envelope in her mailbox. "That is odd. The mailman doesn't
come twice in one day." She took the envelope out of the box and opened it. It read: "Dear Rebecca, it was so good to see
you again. Thank you for the lovely meal and for the beautiful coat. Love Always, Jesus."

The air was still cold but even without her coat, Rebecca no longer noticed. Jesus appeared to her in the form of a poor
couple.

Note that in eternity, we will have to show the Almighty God how we helped our brothers and sisters who were in need.

Mother Theresa said: "WE CAN DO NO GREAT THINGS,ONLY SMALL THINGS WITH GREAT LOVE."

Source: Our Daily Manna

The Kingdom Woman

Recently, I attended a program where the speaker talked about becoming a kingdom woman. I was blessed and thought I'd share this with you all.

Theme: The Kingdom Woman

The word "kingdom" means a state or people ruled by a king or queen. As a kingdom woman you are a queen so your are to do things that present you as good and appropriate. You are to carry yourself in a way that immediately people see you, they give you the respect you deserve. As a kingdom woman you must also learn to keep the company of those who will add value to your life.

There are very good examples of kingdom women in the Bible but in this study, the focus will be on Deborah and Esther.

(a) Deborah (Judges 4) - the following are the attributes of Deborah which made her a kingdom woman:

- In everything she did, she drew on the strength of God (she was a prophetess). She never did anything in the flesh but always asked God for guidance.

- She was a homemaker, because not only was she a wise judge, she was also a married woman who was never in competition with her husband. 

- She was a 'Mother in Israel', why? because she had a meaningful life which encouraged people (men, women, young or old) to seek her for advice.

- People could see the glory of God in her life.

- She went from being a judge to becoming a leader. Do you know that how much progress you make in life as a woman depends on your attitude. If you are surrounded by friends or people who put you down cut them off.

- She led with authority from God.

- She was trustworthy ( Judges 4 vs 8-9). Can God trust you with his work or message?

- God released His word through her.

- She was a good listener cos she asked God to open her spiritual hear.

- She was also humble.

- She was a motivator. Learn to always influence others positively.

(b) Esther, Esther 9 vs 29:

- She was determined, not because she was from a rich background but on the contrary she was determined to succeed because she wanted a change for her people and also because she carried God along with her in everything she did.

- She had the Holy Spirit in her and that's why she was transformed from an orphan to a Queen.

- She waited patiently on God and while her people suffered, she remained in the closet and prayed and fasted until she won the battle spiritually . Esther 4 vs 15-16 and Esther 6

- She made her mark. 

- She had the fire of God in her.

- She was sensitive to the Holy Spirit. 

As a young lady, you need to learn to take time out and ask God for directions. Learn to listen to His voice and ask Him to lead along the right path.

One thing we need to know as women is that we are a powerful force and as the saying goes "behind every successful man is a woman". As a woman you must learn to respect your husband no matter the situation you both find yourselves in. He's the head and as you know every head must succeed, therefore you should learn to pray violent prayers concerning the success of your husband. If the head becomes a failure, then you automatically become a failure because his failure is as a result of you not carrying out your duties effectively

Learn to be a kingdom woman, let God inspire you, let Him speak to you. Let Him use you.

Never let others underestimate your abilities

Remember "You are what you believe yourself to be"

by Pastor (Mrs) Olugbenga




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