How To Become Who God Destined You To Be Part 1

Ever wondered why you never fully attain you potential in life? I see you have a direct answer right; you blame it on others, missed opportunities and all other forms of excuse in the book.

The answer to this question is that we need to take responsibility for our own failures but do not fear, cos the Holy Spirit really does enable us to maximize our strengths and minimize our weakness so that we can become that active person in the body of Christ.

So recently I've been reading and meditating on a particular eye-opening spiritual book titled: Spirit-Controlled Temperament by Tim Lahaye

You've really got to check it out. I'd give it a 5 star rating. Moving on before I lose track of how essential this topic is to you, well it blessed me so hopefully it blesses you too.

Yes be rest assured that our temperaments can either make or break us both physically and spiritually so read on.

According to the book, there are 4 basic temperaments which we all exhibit but some are more predominant in us than others and in reality we are a combination of at least two of these temperaments (I won't dwell too much on each temperament but will focus on 2 major ones:

1. Sanguine - they are warm, lively and fun loving, e.g. apostle Peter 

2. Choleric - hot tempered and active e.g. apostle Paul

3. Melancholy - perfectionist type, self sacrificing and anger e.g. Moses 

4. Phlegmatic - calm and easygoing e.g. Abraham

Let's use a MelChlor as an example and yes "I'm active but still find it hard to overcome anger". Remember it was because of Moses's anger (yes the Israelites rebelled and out of anger he destroyed the first stone tablets with the 10 commandments written on them) that He only saw the promise land from afar but never got to enter the place.....if you don't believe me check out Deuteronomy 1:37 -38.....Because of you the Lord became angry with me also and said, “You shall not enter it, either. But your assistant, Joshua son of Nun, will enter it.

The main reasons why we never fully attain our potentials are hidden within weaknesses of our temperament:

1. Strengths of a typical MelChlor: sensitive, perfectionist, self-sacrificing, strong-willed, leader and so on

2. Weaknesses: self-centered, pessimistic, hot tempered, moody, revengeful and impetuous.

A typical MelChlor can be very paranoid and think people are always talking about him/her and they have that proud "self-sufficient" attitude where they believe that "it's all by their might” that they have succeeded in everything they lay their hands upon without ever acknowledging the "Supremacy" of God.

They believe it's all about them and when things do go wrong they suddenly go into that "self-pity/depression mode" asking "why me?” 

MelChlors have to remember, In all things, give thanks....I Thessalonians 5:18.

This "self-centered" attitude makes MelChlors selfish and love others less because they spend too much time focusing on themselves alone. Note "LOVE" seems to be absent in most Christian churches today. 

When it comes to marriage they tend to have a difficult time taking the "fatal plunge" because they like to daydream or "idealize a potential" spouse but they soon recede because the weaknesses of the other person plays out to much for them, because yes MelChlors are very judgmental, they analyze and dissect unnecessary information/issue to a point where it no longer makes a valid point. 

It's only when truly filled with the Holy Spirit that a MelChlor fully achieves a level of spiritual boldness in Christ to become a very confident and active member of the body of Christ.

People with this particular blend of temperaments rarely live up to their amazing potential, because of their "internalized spirit of anger and revenge". They rarely forgive. For example there's no mistaking that Apostle Paul was a MelChlor, He initially sought to persecute all Christians even to the point of their death but upon being visited by Christ Himself, he became a fantastic, self-sacrificing preacher who worn so many souls to God and while being in prison was still able to preach the gospel.

So if you know that you are called to be a leader of a fellowship, head of a family and so on...you'll have to dig deeper with the help of the Holy Spirit in order for you to prevent division within your fellowship group and the breakup of your family.

Watch out for Part 2, Where I'll tell you how the Holy Spirit can help transform you no matter the circumstance or temperament and make you a BONAFIDE child of God...........

"Our Circumstances DO NOT Have To Determine Our Reactions" ~ Tim Lahaye.

Her Story Our Story Part 2

Our Story: Part 2

Dear Diary,

It’s Sunday, grey, wet and the sun has refused to smile at me. I stand here, I see her smile no more, only stillness and peace written all over her face. She’s dressed all white and I in black. As I looked to the sky, the Sun peeps through finally smiling down at that spot, 6 ft under. Now I know the Angels must be watching over her.

You might be wondering who I am, I am a 10 year old boy somewhere in this misplaced world. But wait don’t go I’ll tell you Our Story.

Yes she is my mum and I guess you are wondering why I’m standing here by a burial site dressed in black.

It all began when I was 5. I had always known my mum as the happy type always smiling at everyone she meets, going to prayer meetings while my father was the Sunday school teacher. You see that’s what my parents would like the outside world to believe but within the four corners of our home a storm was brewing. Times without number I recounted the story my mum would tell myself and Peju about how she met my dad at church while trying to encourage us that when we get older the church would be the best place to find all the answers to the questions in the world.

You see as my dad was the Sunday school teacher, he was also a notorious drunk and a cheat. Once, he came back home by 2 am and my mum had been waiting for him all day while his dinner ran cold. She had innocently asked where he had been when she got a huge slap on her face as a response. By morning her face was bruised and I asked if she was ok, she replied, “Sweetie mummy and daddy only had a minor argument and nothing more”.

Months and years went by and the slaps turned into punches which turned into kicks which turned into death threats by, yes my dad. My mum did the usual, “fast and pray” and “bind the devil thing” during these critical periods. On one occasion according to my older sister Peju, mum had gone to report the incidence to my paternal relatives but you see all they told her was, “You are a married woman, you just have to learn to bear the burden and he’s your husband so you must respect his decisions” and GBAM!! There it was the sign within their voices that there was nothing they could do. Mum began to lose weight overtime due to so much suffering.

On this very final day my mum couldn’t take it any longer, with me in hand she marched right to the Pastor’s office to seek for advice. She reminded the Pastor, “Pastor were you not the one who told me this man was spirit filled before I married him, ehn”, and Pastor stared at her in shock. Pastor got up and did the entire ‘bind the devil and cast out strange women thing” and just assured her that everything had been solved. I remember clearly it was just a few days after my 10^th birthday. This prayer I guess was so intense it lasted for 4 hrs.

Upon arriving home at 10.30 pm, Peju met us at the gate crying because my dad had whipped her mercilessly with his famous brown belt. As mum stepped in, dad demanded where she had been the entire evening and if she was cheating on him. I was shocked this woman had been about the business of trying to resolve their ever disappearing marriage and all he could do was accuse her. Next thing I know he pushed her right into the concrete wall where she hit her head and was immediately rendered unconscious. Peju and I ran out crying out to the neighbours for help and before we knew it she was rushed to the hospital and on getting there she was pronounced “DEAD” by the doctor in charge.

My mum who was there a few hours ago was now gone forever. I pushed past the doctors and went to hold her cold hands and whispered, “at least you are now in a happier and peaceful place”.

Dad had fled while Peju and I were taken to an orphanage as we had nowhere else to go. I often ask Peju who do we blame for mum’s death, is it Pastor for not thoroughly checking into dad’s level of spirituality and personal life outside church or dad for being such an abrasive drunk?

Either way mum is now gone and that motherly love and charm can never be retrieved.

Before I go, here’s a poem I found I believe all women and men as well should read:

Fool by Love by Erica Richards

She comes home battered and bruised She’s down and out confused How could a person she had loved Take her delicate heart to misuse He constantly said "you're the one for me" And she had fell too deeply to see The thoughtless monster He would soon turn out to be You'd think one more hospital visit would do it No more punches, no more hits But she comes home to the same old man One more lousy drink, one more door slam She’s blinded by the bitter bliss But how could you love a person that does this She finally threatens to leave and get wise He said he'll change, just another one of his lies He said his anger problem will go away And he pleads for her to stay But why she stayed, no one knows This abusive life is what she had chose

“You see that’s our story”

END.

Writer’s Note: It never fails to amaze me every time I find that even in this 21^st century a lot of Christian women are still victims of this form of abuse by their husbands who claim to love them with all their hearts. One thing to note within this story is that the 3 main parties involved (excluding the child) are at fault.

 First the woman for not waiting patiently to hear from God while giving AGE as an excuse as to why she had to marry the man, next the Pastor for not fully investigating the level of SPIRITUAL MATURITY of the man (worker in the church) and yes it’s true a lot of Pastor’s these days fail to do this while giving excuses of how active the worker is within the church as a justification for their way of life outside the church (Remember “all that glitters is not gold”) and finally the man who probably took Ephesians 5 vs 22 ~“Wives SUBMIT to your husband” by its literal or cultural meaning “Wives your husband is your head and whatever he says is word and you have no opinion”  rather than dig deeper to understand that spiritually it means “Wives honor, respect and love your husband as you love yourself while aiding him to achieve his goal as the head of the family”.

Gen 2:20 clearly states that a woman is the “help meet” of a man while vs 22 goes to justify to that she is one and the same flesh as her husband, so in other words for the husband to truly gain respect, love and honor from his wife, he must treat her with the same love and respect he seeks.

Divorce is a topic for another day!!!!!

My advice to young people out there is just SIMPLE!! : “Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and ALL other things shall be added unto you”~Matthew 6:33.

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Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, Vanity, Love and Time

A STORY TO MAKE YOU THINK ! 
Once upon a time there was an island where all the feelings lived; Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all the others......, including Love. One day it was announced to all of the feelings that the island was going to sink to the bottom of the ocean. So all the feelings prepared their boats to leave. Love was the only one that stayed. She wanted to preserve the island until the last possible moment. When the island was almost totally under, Love decided it was time to leave.She began looking for someone to ask for help. Just then Riches was passing by in a grand boat. Love asked, "Riches, Can I come with you on your boat?"Riches answered, "I'm sorry, but there is a lot of silver and gold on my boat and there would be no room for you."Then Love decided to ask Vanity for help who was passing in a beautiful vessel. Love cried out, "Vanity, help me please." I can't help you", Vanity said, "You are all wet and will damage my beautiful boat."Next, Love saw Sadness passing by. Love said, "Sadness, please let me go with you." Sadness answered, "Love, I'm sorry, but, I just need to be alone now."Then, Love saw Happiness. Love cried out, "Happiness, please take me with you." But Happiness was so overjoyed that he didn't hear Love calling to him. Love began to cry.Then, she heard a voice say, "Come Love, I will take you with me." It was an elder. Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that she forgot to ask the elder his name. When they arrived on land the elder went on his way. Love realized how much she owed the elder. Love then found Knowledge and asked, "Who was it that helped me?" "It was Time", Knowledge answered. "But why did Time help me when no one else would?", Love asked. Knowledge smiled and with deep wisdom and sincerity, answered, "Because only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is. Only Time can tell who YOU truly love and who truly loves U...I didn't come up with this

Your Smile

Hi guys yes i know it's been a very very long time and yes i'm working on it's not all cheesiness and love but here's a little thing i found dated 2009 when I began writing in notebooks but wanted to share it:

'Your smile caught my eye for the first time

Your words stuck to my soul like it would never go away for the first time

You are elegant, thoughtful, kind, meek….. I could go on and on but for the first time You are everything

For the first time I noticed Your eyes glimmered in the light

For the first time someone very dear had impact in my life

For the first time I had something of value to cherish and fight for

To me You are the most important person

To me You are amazing and beautiful if I’m permitted to say for the first time

For the first time I had someone who never judged me

You became a part of my life not for the first time only but forever'

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Progess: One of my favourite quotes

"Progress depends upon what we are, rather than upon what we may encounter. One man is stopped by a sapling lying across the road; another, passing that way, picks up the hindrance and converts it into a help in crossing the brook just ahead. We are too apt to think that our progress in a given case will depend solely upon the obstacles we may run against. It is more likely to depend upon what runs against the obstacles" 
~Henry Clay Trumbull


Coming soon....'it's not all cheesiness and love'


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International Women's Day

Take this day to appreciate all the women in your life.
Appreciate them for their hard work
Appreciate them for the strength to put up with a lot
Appreciate them for nurturing you and for always being there for you
Appreciate them for just being GREAT WOMEN

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY!!!

The Coffee

Hi all,

I know it's been a while. I promise to update as soon as possible. But while things are still being planned i want you to think about this story below, it was forwarded to me by a friend and i thought it would be good to share with you all:

THE COFFEE......

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar ... and the coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.

When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was fu...ll. They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "Yes."

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, " I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things--your God, family, your children, your health, your friends, and your favorite passions--things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, and your car. The sand is everything else - the small stuff.

"If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your wife/husband/kids out to dinner. Maybe even play another 18. There's always time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter.

Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."

~author unknown~

 

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