Showing posts with label God's will. Show all posts
Showing posts with label God's will. Show all posts

Friday, 28 September 2012

How To Become Who God Destined You To Be Part 1

Ever wondered why you never fully attain you potential in life? I see you have a direct answer right; you blame it on others, missed opportunities and all other forms of excuse in the book.

The answer to this question is that we need to take responsibility for our own failures but do not fear, cos the Holy Spirit really does enable us to maximize our strengths and minimize our weakness so that we can become that active person in the body of Christ.

So recently I've been reading and meditating on a particular eye-opening spiritual book titled: Spirit-Controlled Temperament by Tim Lahaye




You've really got to check it out. I'd give it a 5 star rating. Moving on before I lose track of how essential this topic is to you, well it blessed me so hopefully it blesses you too.

Yes be rest assured that our temperaments can either make or break us both physically and spiritually so read on.

According to the book, there are 4 basic temperaments which we all exhibit but some are more predominant in us than others and in reality we are a combination of at least two of these temperaments (I won't dwell too much on each temperament but will focus on 2 major ones:

1. Sanguine - they are warm, lively and fun loving, e.g. apostle Peter 
2. Choleric - hot tempered and active e.g. apostle Paul
3. Melancholy - perfectionist type, self sacrificing and anger e.g. Moses 
4. Phlegmatic - calm and easygoing e.g. Abraham

Let's use a MelChlor as an example and yes "I'm active but still find it hard to overcome anger". Remember it was because of Moses's anger (yes the Israelites rebelled and out of anger he destroyed the first stone tablets with the 10 commandments written on them) that He only saw the promise land from afar but never got to enter the place.....if you don't believe me check out Deuteronomy 1:37 -38.....Because of you the Lord became angry with me also and said, “You shall not enter it, either. But your assistant, Joshua son of Nun, will enter it.

The main reasons why we never fully attain our potentials are hidden within weaknesses of our temperament:

1. Strengths of a typical MelChlor: sensitive, perfectionist, self-sacrificing, strong-willed, leader and so on

2. Weaknesses: self-centered, pessimistic, hot tempered, moody, revengeful and impetuous.

A typical MelChlor can be very paranoid and think people are always talking about him/her and they have that proud "self-sufficient" attitude where they believe that "it's all by their might” that they have succeeded in everything they lay their hands upon without ever acknowledging the "Supremacy" of God.


They believe it's all about them and when things do go wrong they suddenly go into that "self-pity/depression mode" asking "why me?” 

MelChlors have to remember, In all things, give thanks....I Thessalonians 5:18.

This "self-centered" attitude makes MelChlors selfish and love others less because they spend too much time focusing on themselves alone. Note "LOVE" seems to be absent in most Christian churches today. 

When it comes to marriage they tend to have a difficult time taking the "fatal plunge" because they like to daydream or "idealize a potential" spouse but they soon recede because the weaknesses of the other person plays out to much for them, because yes MelChlors are very judgmental, they analyze and dissect unnecessary information/issue to a point where it no longer makes a valid point. 

It's only when truly filled with the Holy Spirit that a MelChlor fully achieves a level of spiritual boldness in Christ to become a very confident and active member of the body of Christ.

People with this particular blend of temperaments rarely live up to their amazing potential, because of their "internalized spirit of anger and revenge". They rarely forgive. For example there's no mistaking that Apostle Paul was a MelChlor, He initially sought to persecute all Christians even to the point of their death but upon being visited by Christ Himself, he became a fantastic, self-sacrificing preacher who worn so many souls to God and while being in prison was still able to preach the gospel.

So if you know that you are called to be a leader of a fellowship, head of a family and so on...you'll have to dig deeper with the help of the Holy Spirit in order for you to prevent division within your fellowship group and the breakup of your family.

Watch out for Part 2, Where I'll tell you how the Holy Spirit can help transform you no matter the circumstance or temperament and make you a BONAFIDE child of God...........


"Our Circumstances DO NOT Have To Determine Our Reactions" ~ Tim Lahaye.

Thursday, 18 August 2011

In Her Shoes

I keep pondering over these questions: does age, achievement and appearance really matter when it comes to choosing a partner / relationship?
Before I take you into the life of Jenny, I want you to remember these bible passages:

Psalm 37vs4..."delight thine self in the Lord and He shall give thee the heart desires of thine heart".

Matt 6vs8..."Be not ye therefore like unto them for your Father knoweth what things ye have need of before ye ask Him".


Jennifer looked at herself in the mirror. She brushed her hair quickly and put it in a ponytail. She looked at herself again, quickly fixed her tie and put on her jacket. Jennifer dreaded Mondays, she knew she had a lot of clients to attend to. She will probably be back home very late. her mother would have to remind her that she is so into her job and not looking to settle. With that thought in her head, she quickly picked up her phone and checked it. Jacob called. She was expecting it. The guy loved hearing her say no to all his requests.‬

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She grabbed her car keys, took one last look in the mirror and made her way downstairs. She greeted her mother and ran out the door before she could comment on her dressing. What is so wrong with a girl wearing a tie? Janelle Monae does it, nobody makes her feel bad about it.

As Jenny got into her office, the telephone suddenly rang. Hello she said, it was her childhood friend Amanda on the other end of the phone. Amanda had called to invite her for their college reunion. Jenny tried to pull out as she felt this would be one of the worse things that could happen to her. Amanda had sent the invite to her by post and now she really had no option but to attend the reunion.

On getting home at 11pm, her mother had been sitting in the living room awaiting her daughter's return. "Where on earth are you coming from at this time, young lady?" asked her mum. She only had to say "from work" to prevent her mum from prolonging the conversation. Straight up to bed she went, just as if things couldn't get any worse Jenny began to toss and turn in her bed. She wondered what the reunion would be like, would everyone have achieved their future goals by now?, oh and what about Amanda I haven't seen her in 10yrs and all of a sudden I have to attend this ridiculous reunion.

Early the next morning her mum came into her room: Jenny dear can I have a word.Jenny sat up in her bed and thought this is not going to be good.

Her mum began: jenny this invite came through the post for you and it's from Amanda, it's about your reunion and attached to it is a note from Amanda which I want you to read before I carry on.

After reading the note, her mum carried on: can you see what I mean by you are not getting any younger, c'mon look at you, you will be 30 next month and what do you have to show for it, Your friend has a manufacturing company, a husband and 3 kids and you have been stuck in one silly dead end job for the past 8yrs and always running after church, are you the only Christian in the world?, ehn when will you take heed to my advice and get married?.

Jenny thought this will not end at all.

She reminded her mother: mama you do remember that so called silly dead end job is something I love doing and God gave it to me, so as far as I'm concerned I prefer this life.

Why don't you quickly settle down with jacob before you turn 30 so you could attend the reunion with him? asked her mum.

Jenny only waved her off.

When you keep dressing like a man and live this your high handed life because you're an accountant, how do you expect men to find you attractive?, ehn, said her mum.

Jenny walked to the little cottage behind the house to have a quiet time, while there she suddenly remembered the conversation she had with her Pastor at one of the marriage seminars at church.

Jenny: Pastor, I'm almost 30 and yet to be married, do I have a problem?

Pastor: first you have to understand that your will and God's will are not the same. Pray for wisdom and strength to do the right thing and trust God's plan and timing for your life.

She suddenly remembered the words to a song (while I wait) by John Walker:

I will move ahead, bold and confident
Taking every step in obedience
While I'm waiting I will serve You

While I'm waiting I will worship
While I'm waiting I will not faint
I'll be be running the race
Even while I wait

With this in mind, she got on her knees, surrendered herself to God's will and chose to attend the reunion with all honesty.

Always remember that you are never truly alone ( Heb 13vs5)

So whether you decide to live a single life or get married, just remember that you are wonderfully and fearfully made by God and you are beautiful in every way

"Trust God's plan for your life and pray and ask for the leading of the Holyspirit"

Inspired by I will wait for You a spoken piece by JANETTE..IKZ of P4CM ( Passion for Christ Ministries)

Images obtained from Google. The video below does not belong to me but is property of P4CM (Passion 4 Christ Ministry).